I have been going out almost every week this summer. Mostly dancing but also to restaurants, to the movies, to see live music.I’ve begun a tentative love affair with someone– me.
I decided a few months back that I would date myself. I wanted to detach from the idea that I had to wait for someone else in order to do the things that feed my soul.
No sitting by the phone, no waiting to get asked to dance, no canceled plans cuz my friends couldn’t make it. Taking myself out on dates helps me get to know myself more intimately, nourish my own needs, and simply celebrate life.
I still get to enjoy great music. I still get to enjoy independent films. And I don’t have to debate where I am going to enjoy a good meal.
I still get butterflies in my stomach when I am on my way. I still worry about how I look. And I don’t always come home swooning about what a great time I had.
I still crave emotional intimacy. I still desire affection. And I don’t deny myself enjoyment because I am alone.
I am aware of my self-doubt. I am present with my fears. I am in touch with my longing and loneliness. And still, I enjoy, savor, celebrate, dance, sing…
In doing this I am inviting more love, art, creativity, and fun into my world. I am doing what I long to share with another. I am becoming the person I most want to be with. I am honoring the values that bring me the most satisfaction and joy.
Would love to hear about the love affair you are wanting to get started with yourself…
What do you have planned for your first date? Do tell! xoxo
Eloiza Jorge 
I love this! I too am having a love affair with myself every Friday for about 4 hours!! While my daughter is at camp I treat myself to something just for me. So far I’ve had mani/pedis, breakfast with a friend, gym, iced coffee at starbucks, gone for a long drive! For some these might seem like really simple dates, but for me it feels like the most extravagant luxury because I rarely get this time along. My other love affair is with my daughter. I then spend the rest of the day doing something fun with her. We’ve been to the beach, pool, liberty science center, movies, and an african drumming show! No things are always great because I am going through some tough things in my life but I have to say that this is the BEST summer I’ve had in a really long time!!
I’m so bad at this. I fill the free-time that I have with getting the groceries shopped and cleaning the house (well, vacuuming a bit) and running errands that would be painful with the kids.
The one time in a year that I went to get a pedicure, it was a disappointment and pricey. I’m willing to try again, though. I love the idea of just picking up and taking myself to a movie. That means I don’t have to listen to groans and smirks when I want to see X-Men or chick flicks! AND I can go to screenings at odd times to avoid a crowded theatre. HATE that.
Thanks for the reminder to treat myself to a date once in a while. I think my first one will be to Mesob – a place I’ve wanted to go since before we moved here, but I still haven’t made it!
I loved this post – when I started reading it I immediately thought you were dating a new guy, but when it turned out to be yourself I was pleasantly caught off-guard. I love that you’re doing the things you love and not waiting. Life is too short to wait! I’m taking myself on a date tonight – I’m broke so it’s not going to be fancy, but I’m still excited :) Thanks for the inspiration!
Loved this Post! I definitely date myself at least 2-3 times a week, now. There is so much to do and discover! Thank you, Eloiza! xoxo
Beautiful!