Tell her you adore her. Tell her she’s your best thing. Kiss, hug and snuggle often. Try to remember your grief does not trump hers. Ask her why she’s hurting. Tell her you’re sad too. Say, I know my dear it must hurt, instead of life is unfair. When she tells you someone at school … More Radical Advice for Mothers of Fiery Daughters
I have grappled with understanding the concept of judgment for a long time. One of the reasons is that my experience includes negative feelings around being judged. You know, when others are judgmental– blaming, critical, rejecting, unkind. This, coupled with the fact that I was taught to be polite and a good girl, made me … More Radical Advice: Judging Others
This is part 2 to a discussion that began in this post. Click here to read it. Explore these questions with me: How can I be with judgment in a more neutral way? Next time you notice yourself making a judgment take a moment to feel into what kind of charge it carries. Is there … More How to Take the Charge Out of Negative Judgments
I often end up advocating for individual reflection and do-it-yourself coaching strategies. And what I am realizing is that, while our growth and development absolutely depends on our own self-awareness, it’s essential to be present with and share with others. We need intimate relationship with others. We need the support, trust and sense of belonging … More The Power of Witnessing
Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that it was NOT okay to ask for what we need, much less what we desire. This might have made it especially difficult to articulate our needs or wants explicitly. I’m guessing that, for a lot of us, we learned a difficult lesson early on: We can’t … More Radical Advice: Ask for What You Want
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