Shit happens, sometimes a lot of bad things can happen in a row. Sometimes life is overwhelming, heartbreaking, sad. Suffering. I’ve had my share. Break ups. Depression. Obstacles. Conflicts. Betrayal. Defeat. We are all bound to encounter it. It is part of the human condition. This is not the problem. Drama … More Radical Advice: Diminishing Drama
First things first, I mostly conform to conventional mores. And I teach my own kids to be good and obedient. A measure of compliance is, of course, beneficial and valuable. As women we’ve likely been trained to be easy to get along with and nice. This may help us feel safe– predictable, and controlled. Many … More Radical Advice: Being Good Doesn’t Inoculate You From Sh*t
You’re competent. You’re responsible. You’re sensible. You have it together. People rely on you. You mostly complete tasks. You’re mostly on time. You mostly do what you say you’re gonna do. Yet somehow life is not fully satisfying. You’re not deeply rewarded for your goodness. Even when you’re praised for being kick-ass, it doesn’t feel quite … More Radical Advice for Competent, Responsible, Sensible Women
Tell her you adore her. Tell her she’s your best thing. Kiss, hug and snuggle often. Try to remember your grief does not trump hers. Ask her why she’s hurting. Tell her you’re sad too. Say, I know my dear it must hurt, instead of life is unfair. When she tells you someone at school … More Radical Advice for Mothers of Fiery Daughters
The new Disney version of the Cinderella fable departs from other popular versions in that it focuses on Cinderella’s capacity for courage and kindness. This is especially poignant in the midst of the envy and cruelty of her stepmother and sisters. While I’m generally critical of sanitized versions of myths that tend to send the … More Radical Advice: Working with Envy
