Dear Loves

Dear Loves, So many of us are deeply troubled and frightened by our current political climate.  Manifestations of our lower selves are not only more visible, but condoned, even celebrated.  I also find myself curious about what would it be like to suffer an even more limited human existence than the one I inhabit.  One where … More Dear Loves

Radical Advice: Being Good Doesn’t Inoculate You From Sh*t

First things first,  I mostly conform to conventional mores.  And I teach my own kids to be good and obedient.  A measure of compliance is, of course, beneficial and valuable. As women we’ve likely been trained to be easy to get along with and nice.  This may help us feel safe– predictable, and controlled.  Many … More Radical Advice: Being Good Doesn’t Inoculate You From Sh*t

Radical Advice for Competent, Responsible, Sensible Women

You’re competent.  You’re responsible.  You’re sensible.  You have it together.  People rely on you. You mostly complete tasks. You’re mostly on time.  You mostly do what you say you’re gonna do. Yet  somehow life is not fully satisfying.  You’re not deeply rewarded for your goodness.  Even when you’re praised for being kick-ass, it doesn’t  feel quite … More Radical Advice for Competent, Responsible, Sensible Women