Shit happens, sometimes a lot of bad things can happen in a row. Sometimes life is overwhelming, heartbreaking, sad. Suffering. I’ve had my share. Break ups. Depression. Obstacles. Conflicts. Betrayal. Defeat. We are all bound to encounter it. It is part of the human condition. This is not the problem. Drama … More Radical Advice: Diminishing Drama
First things first, I mostly conform to conventional mores. And I teach my own kids to be good and obedient. A measure of compliance is, of course, beneficial and valuable. As women we’ve likely been trained to be easy to get along with and nice. This may help us feel safe– predictable, and controlled. Many … More Radical Advice: Being Good Doesn’t Inoculate You From Sh*t
Unbeing dead isn’t being alive. — E. E. Cummings We stay busy. We get distracted. We tune out. Subverting our needs. Denying our desires. Ignoring our longing.
You’re competent. You’re responsible. You’re sensible. You have it together. People rely on you. You mostly complete tasks. You’re mostly on time. You mostly do what you say you’re gonna do. Yet somehow life is not fully satisfying. You’re not deeply rewarded for your goodness. Even when you’re praised for being kick-ass, it doesn’t feel quite … More Radical Advice for Competent, Responsible, Sensible Women
For the most part, the women I coach with are generous, conscientious and concerned about social justice. They attend to others’ needs. They treat others with respect and kindness. They work on behalf of truth and fairness. They have integrity. Yet, they often struggle with attending to their own needs. I often counsel with this … More Radical Advice: Be More Selfish